. It’s not your fault this happened to you! I think you’ll find that your hair is a lot healthier – and possibly thicker, too – after all of the dye is gone. I wanted to post this in case it was useful to anyone. If you check out the “going gray” groups on Facebook or the similar accounts on Instagram (there are MANY), you’ll see a lot of lovely before and after photos. I’ve recently decided to stop coloring my hair. I wish you peace and clarity. The grow-out time can be rough, but hopefully you will start to like your natural color more once you see more of it (and your friend might just come around, too). Pixie cut. And a cool complexion with olive tones thanks to my Italian half. The color change was enough! I don’t blow dry or style. I love the feeling of healthy and free hair! I really needed your story and I’m so glad I found it. I’m so glad you have found my blogs helpful, Jennifer. When it’s long it is just more controllable. Eventually I will be done transitioning, but it’s going to take much longer than I thought. She tested a toner blend on the colored portions of my hair and it did a great job of neutralizing the brassiness. I don’t hate my hair anymore – this post was over two years ago! I have natural very dark curly hair which I started coloring in my late 30’s (and am now over 70). It’s great that there is a specific group tailored to women who have curly silver hair, as I know that there are additional challenges for that population. I am in the 3rd month and it is extremely difficult. I’ve approached it as an experiment of sorts. I know it is now two years later , but I want you to know that I have benefitted from your willingness to share your experiences. At 41, one writer weighs of the pros and cons of putting down the hair dye, consulting experts on how to grow out gray hair without superexposed roots. Antes y después. My hair is about the same length as yours and I, too, have no desire to cut it as it becomes more unruly/curly/frizzy/etc. If you've been wanting to gracefully grow your hair gray but aren't sure where to start, you're in luck. The Color Crave hair makeup sounds like a good tool, too, especially for special occasions. Wishing you strength and fortitude and an end result that you’re happy with. It was supposed to wash out in 8-9 weeks, but never did. If your outgrowth is shiny white, I’m sure it will look beautiful! It is supposed to wash out completely after 28 washes. That has not always been the case for me. If you opt to comment, please be kind, as I have already flogged myself more times than I can count for the way I have mishandled this. – and most hairdressers are only aware of henna with compounds, not body-art completely-natural henna, which folks have been using for thousands of years) – but I feel so bad for you. The first few months, in particular, were difficult as my hair was about as two-toned as it gets. The more outgrowth you get, the more you’ll be able to envision the end result. I’m in, I’m a little nervous but I’m going to do it!! The stylist offered to fix it for free a week later (to give my hair some time to “rest” between processes), but it ended up looking worse after that. I feel empowered about being 50 and more accepting of growing older. The reason I’m not done transitioning stems from my not being in the right headspace to take on this journey in the first place. I did a handful of posts on my gray hair transition process to try to offer some perspective and advice for those looking to go gray, so the stories and pictures about “going gray” here only relate to me (I’m 53). Here are some pics of my hair. ( Log Out /  During the exogen phase, hair is shed from the scalp, often helped along by … I started growing out my gray hair one year ago. . I wish you the very best along the way (with both your hair and with menopause – I went through both changes at the same time – it was a lot, but I’m in a much better place now). Hope this helps! I feel as if I will be blah!! I knew that I would be up on a stage in front of 350+ people, and because I was also aware that I might have my photo taken for some newspapers or local magazines, I knew for me, this was a deal- breaker. I will start posting progress on Insta tomorrow (@semisweetgirl) – my sisters granddaughter is going to cut my hair, Oh if anyone is interested the product I was talking about it is called oVertone and the site is overtone.co. I’m so glad I read this! I wanted you to know that I made the same mistakes, and am getting ready to pay the price for them yet again, with an epic skunk stripe. Its just not in a good place right now. At first, I wasn’t going to write about this at all and I even considered deleting my previous gray hair transition posts. I am currently in the process of going gray. Like Liked by 1 person. Good luck to you! Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. Best wishes to you with your transition, if you decide to take it on. Thank you for sharing your journey. Cutting a bit more of the dye off every 6-8 weeks will help you to see the progress (obviously, after salons re-open and you feel safe going there). Wishing us all luck! I’m actually not as gray as I thought I was when I first started growing my hair out. I was planning on getting some highlights to blend into my ‘skunk stripe’ (a very white stripe, yikes!) Many thanks for sharing your experience as it offers me a guide on what to do. Thank you for the humbling comments and keep in mind it is only hair. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. Thanks for your comment, Rhonda. It’s no sassy silver streak, that’s for sure. The stylist assured me that it did indeed wash out with the “detox shampoo” she used at the shampoo bowl, but I never saw that effect myself. Jan 26, 2016 - Growing Out Grey Hair Naturally | The truth about natural grey hair, how it's perceived and how to get the most out of yours | Awake Organics tell yourself that you can color again in a month (or a few weeks or whatever you decide) if you still feel the same way. However, I can’t without risking my health and I’ve been thinking about doing this for a long time so I am determined to do this. I don’t think it’s usually a good idea to continue doing that process after the first few months, as any processes we do can add time to our transition (in my case, it took MUCH longer than it would have anyway). She actually just did a video today on looking youthful with grey hair. Thanks for the encouragement. I discovered a conditioner that deposits a temporary color , makes your hair healthier with each use and they have soft pastels for if my new hair once grown out is really light I can try on a seasonal shade that is soft and unless I keep using it will go away without harming or causing a whole begin again situation. It was really funny when I was growing it out because I was really insecure and I didn’t want to be seen as an old woman. After my second round of highlights and two weeks later – toner didn’t last. I was concerned because it looked like the toner wasn’t completely washing out or fading between my appointments (as you can see in the August side view above). A few words of advice if you do decide to stop coloring and have those weak moments… Get in touch with your “whys” – those reasons why you opted not to color your hair anymore. I been thinking of using COVID-19 as the turning point for my decision to go gray… from medium brown. It may take me until late 2019 or 2020 to accomplish that goal, but it will happen! It’s just my opinion, obviously, but I think natural silver tones brighten your skin and make you look more youthful – that’s certainly the case for me (as the grey is coming in) I’ve stopped wearing make up – I just don’t need it anymore! I have long hair that I always wear in a bun or braid. I just want people to be aware of potential pitfalls because I was not aware and struggled a lot as a result. I mentioned above that I have unruly and frizzy hair. Hiya – a curly girl here. Good luck to you! I’m still thinking about doing very chunky highlights to go an overall salt and pepper look, but I’m going to consult with several stylists before making a final decision. it’s been about 2 years and I am done with the hassle and fake look of dye. My hair isn’t as gray as I’d hoped, but that will happen in time. Growing out grey transition hair with highlights takes patience, sometimes it can feel like you just wake up and see it, maybe because someone may point it out. I barely even noticed a grow out stage. I turned 60 this April 2020 and with the COVID pandemic and staying home, stopped coloring my hair. Get the old colored hair cut off. You’re well on your way, Deborah. I allowed the entire underneath to grow out, then I flipped my part to the other side and allowed the rest of the colored hair on top to grow out. , Good for you. I decided to go for it because I’m curious about what my real hair and the real me looks like. Enjoyed your blog very much. The growing out phase is tough – and is the bit that you’ll feel ‘ages’ you because it kind of feels like you’re not ‘taking care of yourself’ – when actually, by being natural you’re probably taking better care of yourself! I’m going to follow your advice and do an one of two low-lights in the beginning and chop off hair from shoulder to chin length. This may be fun. Toner helped to eliminate the brassy, orange color of my hair. I wasn’t ready to fully embrace the process because I was afraid of looking bad and receiving strange looks or negative comments from others. Even women who aren’t particularly vain struggle with letting their natural hair grow out. It’s not easy (although it’s not usually as difficult for others as I was for me! As a 34 year old, transitioning to full silver, I am so grateful to have a community of silver sisters that are willing to share lessons learned in their own lives. I’m about 3 centimetres out, and I quite like the grey colour, I’m a bit worried about how it will look once it’s framing my face. He’s doing well with it now, though. Although those symptoms passed after several days, the “toner” did not fade as I washed my hair over the following weeks. Categories: Gray Hair Transition, Self-Esteem•Tags: brassy highlights, going gray, going grey, gray hair mistakes, Gray Hair Transition, gray hair transition do's and don'ts, grey hair transition, growing out gray hair, growing out grey hair, highlighting coloring hair, highlighting porous hair, how to transition to gray hair, porous hair, toning brassy highlights, ways to transition to gray hair•. My hair is actually softer and healthier without the dye, and I hope you will find the same thing to be true. On the bright side, grey hair has been one of the most popular trending looks in the past 2 years! I also fell prey to a (very young) hair stylist who convinced me that it would be one long day, and it wouldn’t be GRAY, but more silvery almost blonde…and I have very dark, almost black hair. I turned 60 last month and I always thought my age would determine when to gray. It sounds like you don’t have a whole lot of gray, which would make for an easier transition if you choose to go that route. He’s in Southern California (where I live) and if I knew about him a few years back, I would have gone to him for help with my hair. So, you have short hair and decided it is time to grow it back again. What else to do right? You can check out those stories here: https://katiegoesplatinum.com/category/silver-hair-transition-stories/ Best wishes to you! Meanwhile, if you have blonde or grey beard hair, then you’ll probably be looking at a 2-week wait before you’ve hit the end of the first stage of growing your beard. I loved being grey, and had grey hair for about 3 years. Sara . Check out this grey hair transition board for inspiration!. Trimming it won’t necessarily make hair grow faster, but will make it look definitely better and in better shape too. Stage 3: September 2017 – May 2018 My hair grew quite long and I experimented with some temporary colours and plaited my hair alot to give it more volume. I went back in for more toner, but it never lasted more than one or two shampoos, so I gave up on both toning the highlights and that particular hairstylist. I wish you all the best with growing your hair out. If none of them are comfortable with bleaching the highlights enough to take them to white, and if I still think I want to go grey, then I’ll just let it all grow out and deal with the demarcation line and hide the outgrowth with hats and scarves. So, my journey begins again. Stage 1 : April 2017 the year I turned 50, I decided to start the transition. During the first stage of growing your beard you’ll start looking fairly stubbly pretty quickly, but you simply need to let it grow out. The first months are the most challenging, so you’re wise to not look in the mirror too often. As for how I resisted the weak moments, it was easier for me than many because of some of my reasons for stopping the dye – my increasing chemical sensitivity and the compromised state of both my health and my hair. I really don’t care what people think about my choice to go gray or the way it looks while it grows out. Live and learn… Hopefully in time, no one will have to go through what I did as stylists learn more about both techniques and potential pitfalls. abeeheart says: December 24, 2018 at 4:18 pm Reply. Fortunately, however, no hair decision is permanent. Probably you are hearing some of these terms at the moment, as all around the world women are giving up dying their hair and embracing their natural silver strands #silversisters #grombre. My stylist convinced me against my better judgment ( having read your blog earlier) to integrate the front grey. They all look Not long after these disappointing processes, I was contacted by a former stylist out of the blue on Facebook. You seem to have a wonderful attitude, which will serve you well in going through what can be a difficult process (but isn’t for everyone, especially if you have the right attitude going in). Is it impossible for a good stylist to “transition “ me through this process? In any event, it doesn’t hurt to give it a try, as you can always dye your hair again if you don’t like your natural color (that is, once all of the salons re-open). I started to panic and tried using clarifying shampoo, dandruff shampoo, and even dishwashing detergent, but nothing removed that color. At this point, I’m planning to keep doing small cuts until all of the remaining color is gone, but I’m not sure how long that will take. This photo isn’t a perfect rendition, but it has been helpful, as it allows me to visualize the end goal and keep my eye on the prize. I can really identify with the sick to your stomach feeling you describe, as well as the crying. I don’t even know what color to call it its so incredibly ugly. I think the milestone birthdays can help us to better evaluate what we do and don’t want in our lives. Yes, I have continued to use color during this process, but I haven’t put it on my scalp for two years now, which is at least one thing I’ve done right. I apologize for my delayed response here, but better late than never! I can see where it faded a bit, but that’s about all. You may wonder why I didn’t just cut my hair short to get rid of the orange. This is what my hair looked like in July 2017 – pulled back and wearing a hat. Growing out a bad haircut is the worst — but growing out a good haircut is no walk in the park, either. I know full well how hard that is and how difficult the entire process is. At this time, I returned to my favorite hairdresser who is also a dear friend, even though it meant traveling farther from my home. I’m sure it was probably a very rare occurrence, but I believe in warning people, which is why I wrote this post in the first place! Yes, I was a “terrible warning” for sure, but now you and others won’t be and I’m grateful for that. Good luck with your transition :o). If you’re referring to the photo at the end of this post, that was a Photoshop that my stepson did to help me see how my hair might look in the end. It’s probably not as bad as you think it is (lookswise) but it’s that anger you feel at having been pushed into something you knew you didn’t want. But I know the process is still challenging for you. I took 135 hours of my time back" If I had been having my hair dyed professionally, this break would have saved me around £1800 on salon trips! Thank you for offering this resource. When your hair is in the awkward in-between stages of growing out, it can be tempting to just chop it back off. ’ moments when you think i will need to do at that and! 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